Domestic Violence

Battered Woman’s Dilemma: In a Struggle for Survival

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Olivia J. Scott Battered Woman's Dilemma

A book on Intimate Partner Violence against women. See what’s inside. Buy Now Online on AMAZON. Click HERE

Many women find themselves in abusive relationships and don’t even know they are being abused. Once trapped, they must find a way to escape! Battered Woman’s Dilemma: In a Struggle for Survival underscores some of the main challenges battered women still face in their day-to-day struggle for survival and ultimate escape from domestic violence. The struggle is illustrated by real battered women whose stories are woven into the chapters.

Society holding victims at fault, law enforcement agencies’ misunderstanding of the complexities of intimate partner violence, and the justice system and its lax attitude in adjudicating these cases help perpetuate violence against women.

Women will be able to recognize abusive relationships, understand the cycle of violence, and learn about strategies for leaving safely. The values of self-esteem and self-love, tips on breaking the cycle of abuse, and the necessity of emotional and psychological healing in the aftermath help to bring a holistic approach to understanding and ending the cycle of violence.

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Also coming soon to Kindle (Digital download)

Thank you for your support. You are welcome to request an autographed author’s copy. I’d be happy to sign and ship it to you.

 Copyright@2015 Olivia J.Scott

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International Women’s Day: Striving Towards a World of NO Violence Against Women

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international womens dayToday we celebrate yet another International Women’s Day. This year it is being celebrated under the theme, “Empowering Women – Empowering Humanity: Picture It!”

According to the United Nations, “International Women’s Day is a time to reflect on progress made, to call for change and to celebrate acts of courage and determination by ordinary women who have played an extraordinary role in the history of their countries and communities.” In keeping with this year’s theme, the United Nations “envisions a world where each woman and girl can exercise her choices, such as participating in politics, getting an education, having an income, and living in societies free from violence and discrimination.”

Striving for a world in which women can live free from violence and discrimination

In spite of worldwide efforts over the many years, to end violence against women, our world society is still battling with the issue of protecting women from domestic violence and abuse and abuse and violence from intimate partners.

Women’s Health.Gov reported that each year over 5 million women are victims of domestic violence! How can we end this epidemic?

CEO/Founder of this website, Olivia J. Scott, takes yet another look at this deep-seated social problem that has plagued our society for so long. To celebrate International Women’s Day and Month, her book, BATTERED WOMAN”S DILEMMA: In a Struggle for Survival, will be released in March, 2015. It will be available on Amazon.com in print and on Kindle. This much-anticipated book brings to the world the stories of real women who survived domestic violence, and highlights some of the many challenges victims face in leaving their abusive relationships.

Special attention is also given to breaking the cycle of violence and the pursuit of physical, emotional, and psychological healing and empowerment in the aftermath of the violence.

See Video below about the book

Copyright@2015 Olivia J.Scott

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Jealous Men: A Disaster Waiting to Happen

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jealous men jealous over girlfrend talking to another manby Sasha Smartt, for Woman to Woman

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So your boyfriend or husband is jealous over you, and you feel nice about it, right? You think he loves you so much to the point of jealousy. Get this. Jealousy is not a sign of love and genuine attention. It is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness. And hey, that’s not cute. Rather, it can be a disaster waiting to happen!

The jealousy can be overt, clearly displayed, or covert, subtly held by your partner. I don’t know which one is “better” or “worse”, in fact, none is. The difference though is that where jealousy is clearly displayed by your partner, you are in a position to control it by removing yourself from the relationship. On the contrary, if he is jealous but hides it, that’s even more dangerous because he may just lash out at you at any time without warning, because of something you said or did that he perceives as interfering with your relationship or his sense of security.

What kind of men are jealous?

Any type of man can be jealous, be it an educated, intelligent, high-status man or a guy with a regular nine to five who may have dropped out of high school or never attended college. So jealousy is not really stereotypical. However, men with low self-esteem and sense of self-worth are usually candidates of jealous nature.

Gimme a little bit o’ jealousy

It has been said, “A little jealousy, ironically can go a long way. Women (and men) like being loved and wanted and a secure arm around the waist drawing you in can be great fun. Small amounts of jealousy (very small in a playful way) can be attractive and sexy. But it’s knowing when things have gone too far that matters. Many women have admitted to me that a man who has not a single jealous bone in his body cannot really love her. A man needs to show he cares by drawing her in occasionally. Both parties feel good from this. But it has to be kept under control.”  (TopDatingips.com)

Jealousy as an early sign of abuse

Jealousy is an early sign of possible abusive tendencies in your partner. I must, however, make it clear that not all abusive people are jealous in nature nor are all jealous people necessarily abusive. More than that though, jealousy can be an early indicator of the potential for abusive by your partner.

“At the beginning of a relationship, an abuser will always say the jealousy is a sign of love. He/she may question you about whom you have spoken to or seen during the day, may accuse you of flirting, or be jealous of time you spend with family, friends, children or hobbies which do not include him/her. As the jealousy progresses, he/she may call you frequently during the day or drop by unexpectedly. He may be unhappy about or refuse to let you work for fear you’ll meet someone else, check the car mileage or ask friends to keep an eye on you.” (hiddenhurt.co.uk)

In addition, he may question why you’re always on the phone, or the computer, ask who you’re talking to or pass by to sneak a peek at what you’re doing, of course by making it look like he’s coming to peck you on the cheek or rub your shoulders. If you take your engagement or wedding ring off, he will notice that and ask about it, especially if you accidentally left home without wearing them.  

Jealousy may lead to or include controlling behavior by your partner, which is another sign of the potential for abuse. With the jealousy, controlling and possessive behavior, your man will gradually isolate you from all your friends and family, because he always wants no one else but him to be around you.

“It might be cute at first, but trust me, this could end up with a crisis situation where you end up trapped in a relationship because you have no-one to turn to – having been isolated from your friends because your man didn’t want you out socializing without him.  He’ll have convinced you that going out with them, girls who are only out looking for men, means that you don’t care about him.  Because you care about him, you’ll stop going out with them. He’ll separate you from your circle of friends, even family, and your contact with people other than him will become increasingly restricted.” (relationshiproadblocks.com)

Not only do you stand to lose your support groups but you can end up losing your self-confidence and self-esteem in the process.

It is a fact that many abused and battered women have reported that, at the outset of their relationships, their men were jealous and overly attentive to what they did. Because many women confuse jealousy with love, they may end up trapped in abusive relationships long before they know it.

“At any sign that your man is trying to restrict your social activity, or time you spend with friends and family, question his motives. And if it appears that he is displaying possessive and/or jealous behavior, take steps to stop this situation evolving. You need to seriously consider whether or not your relationship with him is worth it. Losing your right to socialize with whom you choose, your freedom and ultimately, your self-respect, is a price you should not be willing to pay in any relationship.” (relationshiproadblock.com)

So hey woman, watch out for those jealous kind of guys and save yourself from potential abuse!

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